Thank you for this. I just had an unexpected hysterectomy due to severe pain and heavy bleeding due to undiagnosed adenomyosis after a displaced IUD and then a failed NovaSure Ablation. I have not been able to put my finger on my feelings about all of it, but you articulated it beautifully. Grief. I needed this eulogy. Thank you for saying everything I have been unable to pinpoint and articulate, and also simultaneously making me feel empowered for making the difficult decision to say goodbye to my uterus as well. Bravo.
Thanks so much for your comment! 🌷I appreciate you!! I hope you are healing well! It was not an easy decision to reach, that’s for sure! I really struggled with it more than I should have - knowing what I know. Any tips for recovery?
Definitely stay on top of the pain. I alternated ibuprofen and Tylenol rather than the heavier pain killers but had to stay strictly on schedule. I am tapered off them both now and the pain is manageable. Rest. Allow yourself to just rest and recover. Walk. It has helped keep my body active in a gentle way so my mind hasn't gone stir crazy. You've got this. Thank you again for your words. 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing this. Reading this reminded me that Chinese medicine has long viewed menstruation as more than a monthly event. It’s a conversation with the body. Pain isn’t a character flaw. Shame isn’t part of the design. Sometimes the first step toward healing is simply learning to listen.
Well, my beautiful friend, as I am approaching the age of 62 and it’s going on a decade post menopausal… I had intense incredible fear of not having a cycle anymore… Somehow because of my sexual abuse and trauma growing up and the shame I carried with my own feminine body. I thought that was the ultimate ending that I would be the dried up old crown which brought even more of a defeated attitude. However, what I have found on the other side of bleeding is the liberation… I am free and I didn’t know it was going to even affect me this way the freedom that comes with the body once you accept it and are no longer plagued by the reminders of how we are flawed suppressed as women there comes and emancipation. As I have gone through this entire lifetime of journeying to understand myself on a deep level, the sacral chakra and the throat chakra are inextricably linked. And given the area of the body where our female organs are, it has opened up my creativity and my voice much more than I thought. I too was stifle, coming up in a society that hid behind suffer, but don’t express it. And then I took that responsibility to shut myself down as well. And now I embrace the wisdom as an elder, and I’m just getting warmed up! I chose not to have children in this lifetime. I knew it wasn’t my path from early on, but I had the same struggles and oppression as most females… There’s a beautiful new life on the other side and you’ll be surprised at what it unlocks for you I love you, my dear friend make whatever choice is comfortable for you.
As a fellow endometriosis and ovarian cyst sufferer I have to add the feeling that you have to legitimize your pain. People can't see it so they question it, which makes you question yourself over and over. It's a vicious cycle. And I didn't develop mine until after 2 healthy births, so even the doctors questioned me until I had surgery and it was proven. Eventually, after countless surgeries and 3 more healthy births mine went into remission on its own. And then blessed menopause came in my early 40's. Early yes, but my body needed it. I've never thought to verbally thank my uterus but she knows. And every once in a great while I will get an endo like pain that immediately brings me to tears, not from the pain, but from the years of explaining and having to prove that my pain was real to people who couldn't possibly understand. While I sat at my desk with 2 heading pads and a bottle of vicodin.
I’m so sorry that has been your experience too. ❤️🩹 The disdain and dismissal from Doctors is disgusting - until they read my MRI reports or see the photos from previous surgeries. And if Doctors need to see the proof before there’s any understanding - how are normal people supposed to get it? I wish it had been discussed more. When I hear of friends that have short and light periods - I always think how much easier it would have made life.
I was really working towards and praying for a natural menopause onset. 😢
Thank you for this. I just had an unexpected hysterectomy due to severe pain and heavy bleeding due to undiagnosed adenomyosis after a displaced IUD and then a failed NovaSure Ablation. I have not been able to put my finger on my feelings about all of it, but you articulated it beautifully. Grief. I needed this eulogy. Thank you for saying everything I have been unable to pinpoint and articulate, and also simultaneously making me feel empowered for making the difficult decision to say goodbye to my uterus as well. Bravo.
Thanks so much for your comment! 🌷I appreciate you!! I hope you are healing well! It was not an easy decision to reach, that’s for sure! I really struggled with it more than I should have - knowing what I know. Any tips for recovery?
Definitely stay on top of the pain. I alternated ibuprofen and Tylenol rather than the heavier pain killers but had to stay strictly on schedule. I am tapered off them both now and the pain is manageable. Rest. Allow yourself to just rest and recover. Walk. It has helped keep my body active in a gentle way so my mind hasn't gone stir crazy. You've got this. Thank you again for your words. 🙏🏻
Thank you!!🙏❤️🩹
Thank you for sharing this. Reading this reminded me that Chinese medicine has long viewed menstruation as more than a monthly event. It’s a conversation with the body. Pain isn’t a character flaw. Shame isn’t part of the design. Sometimes the first step toward healing is simply learning to listen.
Thank you for this! ❤️🩹
Well, my beautiful friend, as I am approaching the age of 62 and it’s going on a decade post menopausal… I had intense incredible fear of not having a cycle anymore… Somehow because of my sexual abuse and trauma growing up and the shame I carried with my own feminine body. I thought that was the ultimate ending that I would be the dried up old crown which brought even more of a defeated attitude. However, what I have found on the other side of bleeding is the liberation… I am free and I didn’t know it was going to even affect me this way the freedom that comes with the body once you accept it and are no longer plagued by the reminders of how we are flawed suppressed as women there comes and emancipation. As I have gone through this entire lifetime of journeying to understand myself on a deep level, the sacral chakra and the throat chakra are inextricably linked. And given the area of the body where our female organs are, it has opened up my creativity and my voice much more than I thought. I too was stifle, coming up in a society that hid behind suffer, but don’t express it. And then I took that responsibility to shut myself down as well. And now I embrace the wisdom as an elder, and I’m just getting warmed up! I chose not to have children in this lifetime. I knew it wasn’t my path from early on, but I had the same struggles and oppression as most females… There’s a beautiful new life on the other side and you’ll be surprised at what it unlocks for you I love you, my dear friend make whatever choice is comfortable for you.
Thanks so much Col! 🖤 Love you!
As a fellow endometriosis and ovarian cyst sufferer I have to add the feeling that you have to legitimize your pain. People can't see it so they question it, which makes you question yourself over and over. It's a vicious cycle. And I didn't develop mine until after 2 healthy births, so even the doctors questioned me until I had surgery and it was proven. Eventually, after countless surgeries and 3 more healthy births mine went into remission on its own. And then blessed menopause came in my early 40's. Early yes, but my body needed it. I've never thought to verbally thank my uterus but she knows. And every once in a great while I will get an endo like pain that immediately brings me to tears, not from the pain, but from the years of explaining and having to prove that my pain was real to people who couldn't possibly understand. While I sat at my desk with 2 heading pads and a bottle of vicodin.
I’m so sorry that has been your experience too. ❤️🩹 The disdain and dismissal from Doctors is disgusting - until they read my MRI reports or see the photos from previous surgeries. And if Doctors need to see the proof before there’s any understanding - how are normal people supposed to get it? I wish it had been discussed more. When I hear of friends that have short and light periods - I always think how much easier it would have made life.
I was really working towards and praying for a natural menopause onset. 😢
Grace to you and all your loved ones. My maple tree, @Mrs BeaKar sends all her love.
🙏 & please give her mine as well 💚
I did, and she sent her alchemized energy back at'chya!